How To Truly Be Grateful For All That You Have Without Facing A Near Death Experience, With Tony Berardo

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grateful are you for everything you have?

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I'm not talking about the gratitude
journal where you say you're thankful for

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a nice home and a warm cup of coffee.

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I mean truly feel it in your bones
grateful.

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Our guest today thought he knew what it
meant to be grateful until a gunman opened

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fire at the cafe where he was working and
he got out alive.

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about the entire time I was running,
faster than

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the fact that there was no fucking way.

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that I'm dying here.

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So

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You'll hear his story and what it means to
him to try to just be a little bit better

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every day in just a moment.

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for being there.

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It really means a lot that you decide to
spend some time with us.

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Zach is off today, so I brought in a
special guest to help me talk about

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something that I still struggle with after
a lot of years of practice, and it's

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gratitude.

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Not only gratitude, but what it really
means to try to be a little bit better

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every day, what that actually looks like
in practice.

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my little gratitude practice can feel
hollow.

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The things I'll be writing in my journal
just feel like I'm sort of going through

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the motions, but that can be important and
we're going to talk about why.

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the same is true for our guests.

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until recently.

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We're joined today by Tony Berardo.

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He's the host of the Humanity and Hashtags
podcast.

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a guy that's just trying to do a little
bit better every day than he did the day

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before.

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to have struggles with a gratitude
practice, or he did

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until just the other day when a gunman
opened fire at the cafe where he was

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working.

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something like that or any real rock
bottom moment.

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shift your perspective on life and how
lucky you really are not only to be alive,

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but to have all of the luxuries that you
probably have and take for granted.

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connected with Tony and so in order to get
to know him a little better, I actually

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borrowed a question from another podcast
that I was on recently.

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basically, you're a podcaster, you're a
content creator, entrepreneur, dad, all

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these things.

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Take all the labels away.

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Tell us who you are.

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that is a good question.

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Yeah, that's great.

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Take all my labels away.

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You know, my answer probably would have
been different a couple years ago, but I

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think I'm just, I'm just a person that's
trying to be better every day.

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You know, that's like, if I had to sum up
on a daily, like what I need to do, that's

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what it is, is I've worked really hard the
last couple years to just try to be better

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every single day at something.

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So you take away my labels, that's what I
am.

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I'm just an organism trying to figure this
thing out and just be better every single

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day.

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What does that look like for you?

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What does it mean to be better today than
yesterday?

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So for me, it's pointing out all the
things I messed up on.

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So whether that's, I'll give you an
example.

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So today, I freaked out on my dog.

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Not like physically, but I caught myself
to where I got, because I'm on like two

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hours of sleep.

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It was just a rough night with, yeah, it's
rough.

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So with the dog, they don't know the
difference, right?

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And normally, I can identify and control
it, but I haven't been able to.

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Work out as much and I haven't been able
to do my my ice plunge I usually do it

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every single morning, but you know you
wake up You're on two hours of sleep last

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thing you want to do is is work out or hop
in like a sauna, right?

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And you know, there's all these things
that pile up in the morning like my wife's

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getting ready for work I got to feed the
baby.

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She's she's pumping like there's a whole
you know how it is so I realized today

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like my my dog his name's Oliver he came
up to me and he just wanted attention and

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I freaked out

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Like I go, I looked at him like he was
crazy.

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And I said, dude, can you just...

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And I caught myself and I was like, he
doesn't know.

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He has no clue.

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And you know, I'm 38 years old and I'm
freaking out at a dog.

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Like I got things to improve on.

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So that was one thing.

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So I took a step back and I was like,
okay, I'm going to go outside.

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I usually do my grounding in the morning.

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I skipped it today, but I went outside.

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I took him for a walk and it was longer
walk than normal and just...

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spent time with them and just kind of
decompressed.

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I normally do my AirPods listen to a
podcast.

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I didn't do any of that.

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I just, you know, let the wind hit my ears
and just kind of got out of my like out of

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my head a little bit.

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And that's something I do a lot.

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I mean, probably more often than not,
that's a big weakness of mine is I get

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very, especially if I don't work out, you
probably know if you don't work out for

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like a couple of days, you're just a mean
different human.

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It's like that's.

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Right?

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Like that's and I haven't worked out a
couple days and haven't done my routine.

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So that's frustrating.

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So identify my weaknesses, what I can work
on every day.

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And if I can't physically, it's not
tangible.

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Like I can't do it that day.

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Like I give you that example, then I would
write it down at the end of the day.

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So right after work at 5 p I write
everything down.

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You can't see it, but I have a whiteboard
behind me and everything I have to do

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tomorrow and everything that I fucked up
on today.

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I write that down and then hopefully I can
improve tomorrow on it.

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So if it's a routine.

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or if it's something work related,
hopefully I can improve tomorrow.

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If not, I'll try to improve this week and
then every Monday I refresh it.

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So that's just like little things I do to
try to be a better human.

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And usually what I found was I'm giving
examples of like some work and some

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personal life, but no matter what your
example is, typically that kind of, that

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oozes over into your relationships.

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So of course there's negatives and things
I got to work on with my relationship, but

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I've found that when you work on the other
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For example, snapping at the dog, not
working out, maybe stressed out at work.

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Like if you can fix those things, your
relationship naturally just gets better.

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And that's instead of like, because it is
hard to stomach, I need to be a better

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husband.

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I need to be better at the...

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Typically, that's not the case.

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Typically, it's everything else in your
life that's fucked up and it's affecting

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your relationship.

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Because most humans, when you fall in love
and get married and blah, blah, blah,

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blah, blah, like...

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You love each other.

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You're good.

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It's because if it was just you and you
had money in the bank and you had a job

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that you loved and you were healthy and
you had good food, your life is going to

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be perfect.

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So it's not really the two humans that are
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In my in my experience, it's normally
everything else around your spouse that

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bothers you and that oozes into your
relationship.

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So I figured if you if you can fix all
that other bullshit, you know, everything

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else happens.

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So.

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all that other bullshit typically is you
right like it's it's the guy you see in

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the mirror and you were talking about the
routine and there's so much you know crap

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online about this routine is the routine
and it's the only way and you know and all

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that crap but but all of it I think comes
back to and this is an analogy that I'm

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gonna another analogy I'll steal from a
guest everyone always talks about the

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airplane right like you got to give
yourself the mask before you can help

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somebody else but a guest of ours said no
no no the better analogy is the champagne

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fountain.

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You've got to fill up yourself at the top
and let that overflow and pour into the

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cups below, right?

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Like the more you can take care of you,
the more of you there is to take care of

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everyone else.

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Where what the situation you're in where
you're not sleeping, you're taking care of

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a very new child and a dog and a wife and
all of the responsibilities.

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Your cup is empty a lot right now.

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Like so when that dog comes, you're like,
I just don't have it.

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Don't ask me.

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Not now, not today.

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right.

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And so that that routine is key and I'm
feeling it myself.

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Like I was just I was traveling for a
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I didn't go to the gym.

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I went to the gym once for you know in a
month of just being on the road and but it

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was travel right.

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I was back.

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It was vacation.

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I felt great.

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I was eating real food in Europe and it
was like wow this is this is this is a

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great trade off.

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This is awesome but not moving not doing
the hard thing every day that starts to

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creep back up and like what is my purpose?

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What am I doing here?

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Am I good at anything?

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Am I am I worthy?

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And so that's where like the routine is
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The things that fill your cup at the top
so you can overflow onto everyone below.

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That's why it's so important.

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That's why we do this stuff, right?

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great.

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I love that analogy.

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Yeah, I haven't actually heard that
before.

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Yeah, that is very true too, because, and
you know, I think a lot of it has to do

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with like as we get older too, right?

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Like I'm 30, how old are you again?

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You're 47.

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Jesus, you don't look like you're 47.

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It's because you work out probably.

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I think as you get older, you start to
identify kind of like, let me not

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identify, you start to become self -aware
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versus like when you're younger, you're
invincible, everyone else is wrong, you're

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not wrong, like every relationship you're
in, if you get in an argument, they're in

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the wrong, right?

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Like if you cheat on your girlfriend,
she's the bitch, right?

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Like that's how you are in your 20s.

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And it's all her fault.

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And then of course, again, she's in her
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If you ask her, she says the same thing.

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She's like, it's his fault.

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And you can never like be self -aware and
identify those things.

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And I think a lot of it has to do with...

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Maturity for sure our brain is actually
developed after 25.

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So that's not to do with it as well But I
think it's just experience, you know I

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don't think there's anything that all the
you mentioned like all these people online

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saying there's a perfect routine as
perfect this per You just got to wait man.

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You got to write it out.

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You got to go through trial and error You
got to figure out what's best for you

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because there's so many people out there's
330 million people in the US like not

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everyone not one person is gonna have the
right answer

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And there's no way we could do a clinical
study on 330 million people.

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So you kind of have to figure out what's
best for you and what's best for your

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routine.

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Because I do my research, I'm sure you do
as well.

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I know what to do right.

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I know what supplements to take.

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I know when to do my grounding and when
the sun needs to hit my face and when I

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need to turn off my device at night, blah,
blah, like all that bullshit I know it's

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written down.

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And in a perfect world, I'd be able to do
all that every single day.

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And it's that perfect routine.

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But.

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I feel like you need the chaos, you need
the wrench to just screw up everything

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because I think you learn from that stuff.

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And that's what's so great about just
waiting.

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Like if you're in your 20s or in your even
30s and you're just listening to this and

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you're like, I don't figure it out, like
my job sucks, my wife sucks, like what?

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Like just wait, just take your time, do
the right things and just wait because

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like when you get...

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You're never going to have it figured out,
but I can guarantee you as you get older,

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especially in your 40s, you're going to
get closer to figuring it out.

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And if you continue to watch online and
watch these perfect formulas and compare

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yourself to that, it's stressful.

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Right.

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It's stressful to wake up seven days a
week like Garrett Brecker, right?

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Like I love him, but he always says, I'm
in Miami and I go downstairs and I do my

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grounding and then I do my ice plunge and
my sauna and I train.

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Yeah, bro, because all you do is get paid
to speak and you have thousands in the

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bank and there's, I'm sure he has
stresses, but 20 years ago, he wasn't

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doing that routine.

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So it's like, if you try to compare
yourself to that, that's asinine.

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You're going to lose your mind because
there's no way that's sustainable.

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So I think you just have to kind of like
take everything with a grain of salt and

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just figure out what's best for you and
try to do the right things.

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And then, you know, hopefully it'll
happen.

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And I think something that I've
experienced anyways, I think it came late

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in my 30s and early 40s is the ability to
look in the mirror and realize that I am

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the cause of insolution solution to pretty
much all of my problems.

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Like, like we already talked about, like,
it's not her, it's not the job, it's not

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the mortgage, it's not it.

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It's the things you're not doing to take
care of them.

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And I spent most of my life running away
from the hard thing, running away from the

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obstacle, running away from the
challenging thing.

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And it was honestly like talking to Ryan
Holiday and reading his books and

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literally the title, The Obstacle is the
Way, completely changed my life.

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And I was like, I've been doing this
completely backwards.

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Like anytime something's hard, anytime
something's scary, my MO was run the other

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way as fast as possible.

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Do not accept responsibility.

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This is for other people.

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But now I know on the other side of that
is the reward.

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On the other side of that is the benefit
and everything I'm looking for.

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looking for.

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So yes, wait, like life will figure a way
out.

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But also like stop looking at everyone
else and everything else as the problem

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and start looking in the mirror.

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And you know, you can you can only control
you can control right.

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It's one of my favorite favorite sayings
and my wife hates it because I say it all

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the time.

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You know, but not to get too dark or off
topic, but just you know, today's

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Thursday, the 11th.

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So I'm in Tampa and on Tuesday, the 9th,
there was a shooting at a place called

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Armature Works and I was there.

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And I was probably.

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I mean, I saw it all go down.

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I was maybe, I don't know, 20 yards away
from the pops and the shooting.

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And at the time, I didn't know exactly
where it was, but later on I found out, I

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mean, I was, you know, I could throw a
rock and hit the shooter.

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And I was by myself, I was working on some
content for a client.

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And obviously there's a lot that I could
say about that.

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But the one thing that I took away from it
was like, I did everything right, you

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know, like I've...

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Right?

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Like we have raised our daughter, I think,
great, and she's doing great, and I'm

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working out, and I'm eating right, like
I'm doing everything right.

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And then I'm working with this client
that's great, and I'm going to help her

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grow her social media for her business.

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She loves it, right?

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I'm getting paid for it, so it's what I
love to do.

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We're capturing some content.

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I'm videoing on my phone.

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And then literally shots break out.

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Out of my control.

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In that moment if a gun ricocheted or I
mean there was four people that got

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injured not one person was a perpetrator
It was all innocent bystanders that just

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you know bullets ricocheted or it missed
it wasn't even aimed at these people But

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these were the innocent by so it could
have been me It could have been anybody

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could have been my business partner and
it's just like the reason I bring it up is

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because a it happened recently but B it's
like Just you can't you could do

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everything perfect but

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there is no perfect.

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Like life is gonna throw you some shit all
the time.

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And it seems like, and especially I
reflect a lot on some of the things that

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happened last couple years with me, but
that in particular really hit me hard,

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where you reflect on a lot of things.

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And I think that the one thing that I
learned from that was you cannot have

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everything together, ever.

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Like, and when you think you do, shit's
gonna happen.

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And I don't think it's because like
there's this magical aura around you and

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then right when things go, because
everyone thinks that right?

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Like, I don't get it, like job was great
and this and that and then I got fired.

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Like I don't understand why is the life
out to get me?

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I don't think it's life.

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I just think that's just how shit is.

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We just can't control anything.

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Like we're on this rock floating in
infinite space.

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Even NASA and astronomers have no idea.

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30 % of what happens with our universe.

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Like, it's all theories and get like, no
one knows.

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Like all this stuff, the camera that I'm
using is called a Canon and we made up

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this technology.

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Like it's all made up.

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We're all inventing things and we're just
figuring new things out every day.

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Like we don't know anything.

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Doctors are learning new information all
the time.

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In the 50s, they used to tell people,
smoke cigarettes, cause it's good for you.

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Like we're stupid.

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Okay, we're humans.

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We're going to make mistakes.

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So the fact that you think things are
gonna go your way, that's just

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irresponsible.

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And when you can put that guard down,
there's a little bit of a relief to it, I

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think.

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There's a little bit of like, this doesn't
mean go streaking around a public school

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or anything.

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It just means, you know, do what you can
and you're probably gonna have a shitty

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day more often than not, but you're alive
and that's just fantastic.

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Like.

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It's just a different way of looking at
things that just this week I've kind of

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thought about a little bit.

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I'm sure there's a guy that I worked with
for a while that he always used to say

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that, you know, the trick with life is we
were white knuckled on the steering wheel

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all the time trying to control it, trying
to drive it the way we want it to.

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And the more we let go of the steering
wheel, the more hands open up to receive.

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And I just always thought that was such a
beautiful analogy to just be like, we are,

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we're just like, we're just clenched.

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Like, why don't I have, why can't I, I
just, if I could only, and then in a

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situation like you had.

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where you're like, it could all be gone
because I just went to the wrong coffee

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shop today.

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I had a similar, somewhat similar
experience, not nearly as on the scene,

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but I was literally in the parking lot of
a place where there was a shooting hours

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later the same day, about a year ago.

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And man, there's just something about
those moments where...

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It's the bus that was a little too close
on the sidewalk, the shooter that you just

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happened to miss or who had just happened
to miss you.

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Those are the wake up moments where you
realize all this stuff that we worry

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about, all the stuff that gets us down,
that grinds us.

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It's all bullshit.

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None of it matters.

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that's so true.

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Yeah, and it's, you know, it's, I think
it's called the burnt toast theory.

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Have you heard of this?

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The name of it's familiar, but I forget
what the context is.

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so hopefully listeners won't hold me to
this, but it has something to do with when

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you burn your toast for breakfast and
you're on your way to work, there's two

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ways you can look at it, right?

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Like you burnt your toe, shit, I gotta
make a new piece.

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And the whole idea, the theory is that
five minutes that it took you to make a

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new piece of toast, you could have gotten
a car accident on the way.

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Maybe there was a massive accident that
you would have been on.

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Maybe...

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you missed your flight because you ended
up making that piece of toast and the

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flight ended up going down.

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And that's kind of the whole point of the
theory is like, you don't know what's

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going to happen.

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So everything that does happen, good or
bad, you kind of have to take it like

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whatever comes forward is going to happen.

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There's just there's nothing you can do to
control it.

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You could set everything in motion, but
things are going to happen.

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It's going to happen like that's it's out
of your control.

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But when something negative does happen,
don't look at it like you've missed an

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opportunity because you might have gotten
saved by something.

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And that's kind of the whole idea of the
burnt theory is like you look at the burnt

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toast like your day's ruined, right?

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Like, my God, I'm going to be late to
work.

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Little do you know that burnt toast just
saved your life because you know, you

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could have gotten a car accident.

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So that's kind of the idea of the whole
theory.

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And I've been thinking about that a lot
more recently, especially with our

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newborn, because as you know, there's so
many moments like that where.

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You kind of look at it and you're like, I
cannot believe I had to do this and I

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missed this deadline or, you know, we
forgot to do this and then this happened.

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It's a lot of cause and effect.

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And more often than not, it's negative.

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Typically is the result.

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But then I also kind of looked at it like.

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It's not really negative because the cause
and effect, even though the effect of

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whatever happened might have been
negative, maybe we're late to work as an

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example, but I got to spend an extra five
minutes with my daughter.

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And when you start looking at things like
that, where that's the important stuff,

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like your perception of the actual
incident needs to change a little bit.

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And when you can like start thinking like
that, and it takes a lot of time, a lot of

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practice, and I'm not even there yet, but
when you could start kind of putting plans

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in motion to think more like that, a lot
of stuff doesn't bother you anymore

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because you look at things differently,
right?

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It's all the stories you tell yourself
when you put that toast in you weren't

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thinking, this is going to burn.

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You were thinking I'm going to grab this
and I'm going to go.

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And when it doesn't go your way, the story
is all life.

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And and even in your situation where you
went to go do work with that client, you

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weren't thinking I'm there's probably
going to be a shooting today like you were

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so like you're psyched.

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But either way, the story we tell
ourselves about the way this is going to

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turn out is never the way that it turns
out.

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So the more that you can stop living in
the future and worrying about and trying

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to control or stop regretting and thinking
about and feeling terrible about the thing

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you said to me when you were 12 and just
be where you are right now.

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There's a lot of peace right here kind of
kind of no bat no matter how bad it gets.

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I would argue maybe in that coffee shop
last Tuesday probably not a lot of peace.

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However, you know, the the guru in me like
the the Zen Buddhist in me would want to

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be able to say in that moment I was
thinking I'm not shot right now.

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I'm okay.

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I'm not shot right now.

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I'm okay because you were okay, even
though it was an incredibly dangerous

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situation.

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and it's weird being in that situation
because I I mean as I was running and you

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know the people I was with we We try to do
we could to stay together, but it's so

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hectic.

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You don't necessarily worry about everyone
else and you know, we kept yelling on

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active shooter active shooter and and You
had to go inside and kind of cut through

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this corridor to go to the parking lot
that we were in So like inside you don't

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know if there's like we didn't know if
there's like five shooters surrounding the

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place We didn't know so we're like as
you're going in you're kind of creeping

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and you're doing these things

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And when I tell you, bro, like I've been
working out for a long time and I've done

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some hardcore marathons and some Spartan
races and I've, I've worked out, I've done

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kettlebell, like I do hardcore fitness
training.

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I, my heart hurt when it was beating and
I've never felt that before.

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I'm 30 years old.

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It was to the point where even on the old
driving home, it was like this pain that I

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was like, like I thought something was
wrong with my heart, but.

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It was pumping so fast, like it never has
the adrenaline's going through you.

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And the only thing I could think about the
entire time I was running, faster than

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anybody, I will say, at Armature Works.

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I did a video about this on Instagram.

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People made fun of me.

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But I'll stand by it.

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I'll even put it on your podcast to where
I'll say there was people that, if I

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wasn't vigilant, would have held us back
from leaving certain places because they

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were out of shape.

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Or just incompetent, like they just wanted
to take a photo or do something stupid.

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Because you know, you don't know what it
is, right?

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Like you don't know if a couple pops could
be dishes breaking or something, like you

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don't know.

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So, but I knew, I knew because I have
guns.

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So I'm aware that it wasn't an AR, but it
was definitely a pistol and it was two of

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them because the exchange was, it was
noticeable.

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So I bolted and a lot of people just in
the comments are lighting me up saying,

449
00:23:28,268 --> 00:23:29,498
Well, I can't believe you did that.

450
00:23:29,498 --> 00:23:31,288
Like, what if it was nothing?

451
00:23:31,508 --> 00:23:33,808
Okay, then what's the worst that happens?

452
00:23:33,808 --> 00:23:35,968
Everyone goes to their car.

453
00:23:36,508 --> 00:23:36,978
Right?

454
00:23:36,978 --> 00:23:44,028
But if you don't react like that, and it
was something, now you got 15 people on

455
00:23:44,028 --> 00:23:44,868
the ground.

456
00:23:44,868 --> 00:23:45,448
Shot.

457
00:23:45,448 --> 00:23:49,228
So, it's like it's better to be over
-prepared with that type of stuff.

458
00:23:49,228 --> 00:23:52,868
And the only time I was running when I was
sprinting and I was getting out of that

459
00:23:52,868 --> 00:23:56,888
was all I could think about was my
daughter and the fact that there was no

460
00:23:56,888 --> 00:23:57,964
fucking way.

461
00:23:57,964 --> 00:23:59,414
that I'm dying here.

462
00:23:59,414 --> 00:24:03,244
So I've never ran that fast in my life.

463
00:24:03,244 --> 00:24:07,304
You know, after I checked in with my
coworker to make sure they had a place to

464
00:24:07,304 --> 00:24:08,124
go.

465
00:24:08,124 --> 00:24:10,324
But yeah, it's just, you know, you're
right.

466
00:24:10,324 --> 00:24:11,914
You can't really control those things.

467
00:24:11,914 --> 00:24:13,954
And then there is some gratefulness.

468
00:24:13,954 --> 00:24:16,604
But I think you kind of have to...

469
00:24:16,604 --> 00:24:19,214
I thought I was grateful, like on a daily
basis.

470
00:24:19,214 --> 00:24:22,744
You know, you wake up and you always tell
yourself, I'm so happy I have my kids and

471
00:24:22,744 --> 00:24:23,644
my job.

472
00:24:23,644 --> 00:24:26,284
But we kind of like pretend to do this
thing.

473
00:24:26,284 --> 00:24:31,944
I think a lot of us for maybe we want our
friends and family and people on social

474
00:24:31,944 --> 00:24:34,104
media to think that we're good people.

475
00:24:34,104 --> 00:24:40,144
So we, you know, exude gratitude in a way
that we feel is authentic.

476
00:24:40,204 --> 00:24:42,364
I don't know about everyone, but not me.

477
00:24:42,364 --> 00:24:47,824
I was I was grateful, but I was like
grateful, like behind the scenes.

478
00:24:47,824 --> 00:24:49,984
I really of course I am grateful.

479
00:24:49,984 --> 00:24:52,944
But, you know, behind the scenes, I'm like
there's little hidden things where I'm

480
00:24:52,944 --> 00:24:55,020
like, I can't believe this and I can't.

481
00:24:55,020 --> 00:24:58,080
And there was kind of some negative devil
talking.

482
00:24:58,360 --> 00:25:00,700
And I don't think a lot of people like to
admit that.

483
00:25:00,700 --> 00:25:05,400
After that incident though, I could tell
you no question, there is not an ounce of

484
00:25:05,400 --> 00:25:07,320
me that is not grateful for life.

485
00:25:07,320 --> 00:25:11,640
Because I think when you have any type of
situation, whether it's that or health

486
00:25:11,640 --> 00:25:15,680
issue, there's a different, there's a
switch.

487
00:25:15,680 --> 00:25:17,980
And that's gratefulness.

488
00:25:17,980 --> 00:25:24,515
So if you can get there without having
the, yeah, then that's.

489
00:25:24,515 --> 00:25:25,824
Yeah, that's ideal.

490
00:25:25,824 --> 00:25:28,544
hear Gary Vee and all these gurus talk
about it.

491
00:25:28,544 --> 00:25:30,304
And you're like, yeah, yeah, I do that.

492
00:25:30,304 --> 00:25:31,984
I do that.

493
00:25:32,164 --> 00:25:33,124
You don't.

494
00:25:33,848 --> 00:25:36,128
no, it's for for most of us.

495
00:25:36,128 --> 00:25:37,228
It's going through the motions.

496
00:25:37,228 --> 00:25:39,088
It's it's lifting the dumbbell, right?

497
00:25:39,088 --> 00:25:42,388
Like I'm not passionate about lifting this
dumbbell, but it's going to build that

498
00:25:42,388 --> 00:25:46,218
muscle so that eventually one day I'll be
able to go.

499
00:25:46,218 --> 00:25:47,168
I am strong enough.

500
00:25:47,168 --> 00:25:48,948
I am grateful enough for this moment.

501
00:25:48,948 --> 00:25:52,688
But yeah, when I when I'm looking at that
piece of paper every day and going like, I

502
00:25:52,688 --> 00:25:53,798
don't know, I guess coffee again.

503
00:25:53,798 --> 00:25:55,048
I'm grateful for the coffee.

504
00:25:55,048 --> 00:25:56,018
That'll do.

505
00:25:56,018 --> 00:25:56,688
Check the box.

506
00:25:56,688 --> 00:25:58,648
I did my gratitude to my gratitude
practice.

507
00:25:58,648 --> 00:26:00,384
It's very much just.

508
00:26:00,384 --> 00:26:04,464
just doing it for the sake of the practice
and the routine and trying to get better

509
00:26:04,464 --> 00:26:05,396
at it.

510
00:26:05,396 --> 00:26:07,476
think there's anything necessarily wrong
with that.

511
00:26:07,476 --> 00:26:12,396
Again, going back to self -awareness, if
you can identify it and realize there's

512
00:26:12,396 --> 00:26:14,696
other things that you should be grateful
for more.

513
00:26:14,696 --> 00:26:20,156
And I think putting things in different
boxes, too, like, am I grateful for a job?

514
00:26:20,156 --> 00:26:21,556
Sure.

515
00:26:21,836 --> 00:26:27,476
But I think gratitude needs to be like, I
woke up today.

516
00:26:28,056 --> 00:26:29,496
Other people didn't.

517
00:26:29,696 --> 00:26:30,666
I got food.

518
00:26:30,666 --> 00:26:31,106
I got.

519
00:26:31,106 --> 00:26:31,452
Yeah.

520
00:26:31,452 --> 00:26:32,692
lot of people didn't.

521
00:26:33,776 --> 00:26:40,736
more people realistically probably have
less food than you do in the world even in

522
00:26:40,736 --> 00:26:41,136
the US.

523
00:26:41,136 --> 00:26:42,996
I mean there's you know people on food
stamps.

524
00:26:42,996 --> 00:26:46,836
They're not even like you are so like you
need to be grateful if you go to a

525
00:26:46,836 --> 00:26:50,146
restaurant and spend a hundred hours like
that's gratefulness.

526
00:26:50,146 --> 00:26:57,696
So I think like just looking at it like
that to where we get so comfortable with

527
00:26:57,916 --> 00:27:01,644
the new iPhone and you know all the cool
shit.

528
00:27:01,644 --> 00:27:06,304
that's out there and the fact that you can
just take a really dope picture from your

529
00:27:06,304 --> 00:27:11,564
phone and you can listen to music on
Spotify through your car with a click of a

530
00:27:11,564 --> 00:27:12,224
button.

531
00:27:12,224 --> 00:27:15,724
Like we get so comfortable and so quickly
too.

532
00:27:15,724 --> 00:27:16,034
Right.

533
00:27:16,034 --> 00:27:19,564
Like I mean you know you're you're in your
40s.

534
00:27:19,564 --> 00:27:21,484
I remember like I don't even know.

535
00:27:21,484 --> 00:27:28,504
I feel like it's been going on for only 10
years and we have this AI fucking we're

536
00:27:28,504 --> 00:27:30,124
going to Mars by 2025.

537
00:27:30,124 --> 00:27:31,242
It's like what.

538
00:27:31,242 --> 00:27:32,962
Right.

539
00:27:33,022 --> 00:27:33,870
Yeah.

540
00:27:34,196 --> 00:27:37,956
it felt like the other day that I was
chewing on bubble gum cigarettes and I had

541
00:27:37,956 --> 00:27:39,076
a beeper.

542
00:27:40,734 --> 00:27:43,484
Yeah, and internet, what's that?

543
00:27:43,484 --> 00:27:45,224
What's this new email thing?

544
00:27:45,224 --> 00:27:49,520
Like, yeah, trust me, I was on the other
side of this whole switch.

545
00:27:49,520 --> 00:27:53,240
I was having this conversation with a
buddy of mine too, and he goes, he said he

546
00:27:53,240 --> 00:27:55,439
was struggling with patience, and he was
my age.

547
00:27:55,439 --> 00:27:56,560
And I go, patience?

548
00:27:56,560 --> 00:28:01,960
I go, bro, do you remember Napster and
LimeWire?

549
00:28:02,140 --> 00:28:03,240
Patience?

550
00:28:03,240 --> 00:28:06,084
Dude, we used to, right.

551
00:28:06,084 --> 00:28:08,684
waiting for the cassette to come out at
the store?

552
00:28:08,684 --> 00:28:09,784
To drive to the store?

553
00:28:09,784 --> 00:28:12,234
If your mom would drive you to the store
to buy the cassette.

554
00:28:12,234 --> 00:28:13,864
Come on, are you kidding me?

555
00:28:13,978 --> 00:28:14,407
motherfucker.

556
00:28:14,407 --> 00:28:16,048
You just don't do it.

557
00:28:16,048 --> 00:28:17,408
Like, what do you mean patient?

558
00:28:17,408 --> 00:28:22,258
It's only because in the past 10, 20
years, we've gotten so spoiled where,

559
00:28:22,258 --> 00:28:25,348
like, I even catch myself occasionally
too, like, have you ever, like, been on

560
00:28:25,348 --> 00:28:28,588
your phone and then, like, Instagram
doesn't load, it takes a couple seconds?

561
00:28:28,588 --> 00:28:29,388
And you're like, what the fuck?

562
00:28:29,388 --> 00:28:30,828
Is Instagram down?

563
00:28:30,908 --> 00:28:32,018
Dude, it's been five seconds.

564
00:28:32,018 --> 00:28:32,448
Relax.

565
00:28:32,448 --> 00:28:39,564
It has to communicate to a satellite
outside of our fucking...

566
00:28:39,564 --> 00:28:45,383
outside of earth and then come back down
to Silicon Valley and then it goes to your

567
00:28:45,383 --> 00:28:48,948
like relax bro like it's

568
00:28:48,948 --> 00:28:49,808
spoiled.

569
00:28:49,808 --> 00:28:54,268
If the food isn't at my door in 10 minutes
that I pushed a button to get that I, you

570
00:28:54,268 --> 00:28:59,248
know, use a credit card to pay for, we are
so spoiled and it just makes us softer for

571
00:28:59,248 --> 00:28:59,596
it.

572
00:28:59,596 --> 00:29:02,176
Yeah, that's another thing to the food and
everything and I think that's why like if

573
00:29:02,176 --> 00:29:05,416
you're involved in some sort of physical
activity whether it's fitness or running

574
00:29:05,416 --> 00:29:09,956
or you know, whatever it is Or even doing
like plunging or sounds like contrast

575
00:29:09,956 --> 00:29:15,236
therapy if you're if you do something like
that, it really does humble you You know,

576
00:29:15,236 --> 00:29:18,756
and I think that's why to your point
earlier when you don't work out and you're

577
00:29:18,756 --> 00:29:24,076
gone for a month on vacation you feel like
a piece of shit because You know, it's not

578
00:29:24,076 --> 00:29:26,797
necessarily a lot of is out of the routine
but

579
00:29:26,797 --> 00:29:30,557
It's so important to your health to do
these types of things.

580
00:29:30,557 --> 00:29:32,017
It's in our nature.

581
00:29:32,277 --> 00:29:34,547
Like, you know, we're primates.

582
00:29:34,547 --> 00:29:39,617
We're supposed to fucking throw things
around and, you know, lift up women above

583
00:29:39,617 --> 00:29:41,957
our heads so we can cross a lake.

584
00:29:41,957 --> 00:29:44,697
You know, like, we're supposed to be able
to do this type of stuff.

585
00:29:44,697 --> 00:29:49,297
So when you can't do that, your body's
like, okay, power down.

586
00:29:49,297 --> 00:29:50,537
Like it just shuts down.

587
00:29:50,537 --> 00:29:51,460
So I...

588
00:29:51,966 --> 00:29:56,526
And every time every time you do
successfully do a hard thing that is safe,

589
00:29:56,526 --> 00:30:00,186
like getting in the cold water or going to
the gym lifting something heavy, you take

590
00:30:00,186 --> 00:30:03,666
that to the time when it is hard, like
life really is hard.

591
00:30:03,666 --> 00:30:06,586
And you can mentally go back to well, if I
can do that.

592
00:30:06,586 --> 00:30:07,686
This is nothing.

593
00:30:07,686 --> 00:30:08,666
And I mean, that's the whole point.

594
00:30:08,666 --> 00:30:09,852
That's why we do it.

595
00:30:09,852 --> 00:30:11,782
thing you're going to do in the morning.

596
00:30:11,782 --> 00:30:13,592
That's why I always try to do in the
morning.

597
00:30:13,592 --> 00:30:18,872
You know, I hop in fricking 55 degrees for
at least five minutes and I just fucking

598
00:30:18,872 --> 00:30:23,632
power through and I do my breath work and
the sun's hit me and man, it's just you

599
00:30:23,632 --> 00:30:28,792
get out, you do your grounding, you touch
the earth, you get dirty, you know, and

600
00:30:28,792 --> 00:30:30,262
even if it's rainy, it doesn't matter.

601
00:30:30,262 --> 00:30:34,292
Like I just get out and I do it and then,
you know, this is 9 a I'm done with

602
00:30:34,292 --> 00:30:35,168
everything.

603
00:30:35,629 --> 00:30:37,609
The rest of the day is smooth sailing.

604
00:30:37,609 --> 00:30:38,869
That's beautiful.

605
00:30:38,869 --> 00:30:42,569
Yeah, a guy cuts me off in the car.

606
00:30:42,849 --> 00:30:44,329
It's all good.

607
00:30:44,329 --> 00:30:44,999
Have at it, bro.

608
00:30:44,999 --> 00:30:45,919
You got to take a shit?

609
00:30:45,919 --> 00:30:46,629
You want to rush?

610
00:30:46,629 --> 00:30:47,369
Go ahead.

611
00:30:47,369 --> 00:30:48,039
It's all good.

612
00:30:48,039 --> 00:30:49,869
Yeah, I'm good.

613
00:30:50,289 --> 00:30:51,209
Way more important.

614
00:30:51,209 --> 00:30:53,509
I got nothing on what am I going to go to
a job?

615
00:30:53,509 --> 00:30:55,109
Who cares?

616
00:30:55,149 --> 00:30:57,049
You know, like, it's all good, man.

617
00:30:57,049 --> 00:31:01,169
Yeah, so it's, yeah, I think people do
need to get involved in it, which is

618
00:31:01,169 --> 00:31:02,869
exciting that, you know,

619
00:31:02,893 --> 00:31:07,513
You have this podcast where it's all about
fitness and, and, I listened to the one

620
00:31:07,513 --> 00:31:10,293
where you talking about Italy and going
overseas and that's fascinating too.

621
00:31:10,293 --> 00:31:12,236
Were you only in Italy for the month?

622
00:31:12,236 --> 00:31:18,416
I spent a week in Barcelona, but the rest
of the about 12 days or so was in Italy.

623
00:31:20,235 --> 00:31:24,576
Northern Italy, we were in, we spent some
time at Lake Como and then a little bit of

624
00:31:24,576 --> 00:31:28,516
time in Milan and then down to Reggio
Calabria and then over to Rome.

625
00:31:29,036 --> 00:31:29,896
Yeah, it was amazing.

626
00:31:29,896 --> 00:31:33,096
And man, I heard you talking about this on
your show with one of your guests about

627
00:31:33,096 --> 00:31:35,896
just the food difference, right?

628
00:31:35,896 --> 00:31:36,599
Like.

629
00:31:36,599 --> 00:31:41,299
the, the, it, to be in a place where there
is literally government regulation and law

630
00:31:41,299 --> 00:31:46,059
enforcement that makes sure that the food
is of the highest quality, where here the,

631
00:31:46,059 --> 00:31:50,719
the, the enforcement is, it better be the
highest profit possible, right?

632
00:31:50,719 --> 00:31:55,859
Like you can, you can feel the difference
when, when they're like all the rules were

633
00:31:55,859 --> 00:31:57,849
out the window and no supplements, not
really work.

634
00:31:57,849 --> 00:32:01,179
I mean, walking a ton, but like not
working out, not really paying attention

635
00:32:01,179 --> 00:32:04,639
to any sort of macros or calories or
anything.

636
00:32:05,015 --> 00:32:07,835
just eating whatever we wanted whenever we
wanted.

637
00:32:07,835 --> 00:32:09,815
And I felt awesome.

638
00:32:10,315 --> 00:32:13,925
Gain no weight, like felt totally fine.

639
00:32:13,925 --> 00:32:18,255
And then I come home and try to simulate
it, but like the store bought bread versus

640
00:32:18,255 --> 00:32:23,015
like the baked fresh in the bakery that
day bread, like all the differences.

641
00:32:23,015 --> 00:32:27,535
It's incredible how much like even when
you think you're doing well here, trying

642
00:32:27,535 --> 00:32:31,875
to do your best, it's still just some
manufactured process thing that just

643
00:32:31,875 --> 00:32:32,808
wrecks your body.

644
00:32:32,808 --> 00:32:37,228
mean, you know, it's scary too, especially
as a father.

645
00:32:37,228 --> 00:32:42,068
It's hard to fathom 50 years, what it
looks like, because, you know, if you

646
00:32:42,068 --> 00:32:48,768
really think about it, like, let's pretend
the world started in the, you know, 2000

647
00:32:48,768 --> 00:32:52,268
years ago plus, you know, start a way
before that.

648
00:32:52,268 --> 00:32:55,300
But let's just say it even started in
1776, okay?

649
00:32:57,292 --> 00:32:58,842
Declaration was signed.

650
00:33:00,461 --> 00:33:07,141
Let's say we had good nutrition back then
and somewhere along the line, it's only

651
00:33:07,141 --> 00:33:14,681
been 300 years, some not even, somewhere
along the line, we completely destroyed

652
00:33:14,761 --> 00:33:18,581
everything there is to do with food and
drink.

653
00:33:18,581 --> 00:33:24,501
Even our water isn't real water and it's
wrapped up in plastic and it's sitting in

654
00:33:24,501 --> 00:33:25,581
trucks.

655
00:33:25,861 --> 00:33:30,248
And those plastics have been proven,
literally proven,

656
00:33:30,252 --> 00:33:34,772
where microplastics go into the water and
we ingest it and the average person has

657
00:33:34,772 --> 00:33:38,712
millions of pieces of microplastics in
their bloodstream.

658
00:33:39,132 --> 00:33:41,412
That's been 300 years.

659
00:33:41,612 --> 00:33:45,892
Which really is probably closer to 150
because, I mean, we didn't even have

660
00:33:45,892 --> 00:33:47,152
electricity.

661
00:33:48,212 --> 00:33:52,112
So it's like we didn't even have
windshield wipers in our cars until, you

662
00:33:52,112 --> 00:33:53,612
know, a couple people ago.

663
00:33:53,612 --> 00:33:56,372
So we really fucked this thing up.

664
00:33:56,372 --> 00:33:58,432
And it's...

665
00:33:58,432 --> 00:33:58,990
Yeah.

666
00:33:58,990 --> 00:34:03,420
I mean, our grandparents ate better than
we do, even if we tried to eat what they

667
00:34:03,420 --> 00:34:04,042
ate.

668
00:34:04,042 --> 00:34:06,912
it's probably 100 years we fucked this up.

669
00:34:07,392 --> 00:34:09,252
And I think it all started with good
intentions.

670
00:34:09,252 --> 00:34:12,932
I think, you know, it was like, we need to
feed the people, right?

671
00:34:12,932 --> 00:34:17,412
How can we figure out a way to get more
out of this potato, more out of the

672
00:34:17,412 --> 00:34:18,292
strawberry more?

673
00:34:18,292 --> 00:34:23,472
And then eventually they realized if we
cut corners, now we can actually make more

674
00:34:23,472 --> 00:34:24,452
money.

675
00:34:24,452 --> 00:34:27,002
And then they're like, well, what are they
going to do?

676
00:34:27,002 --> 00:34:27,482
Not eat?

677
00:34:27,482 --> 00:34:28,685
They're going to eat.

678
00:34:28,685 --> 00:34:30,655
And then even if they die, who cares?

679
00:34:30,655 --> 00:34:33,945
Because in America, it's like every 10
seconds a baby's born.

680
00:34:33,945 --> 00:34:39,485
So there's this constant turnover like a
restaurant where they're not worried about

681
00:34:39,605 --> 00:34:40,535
going out of business.

682
00:34:40,535 --> 00:34:42,605
I mean, it's America, of course.

683
00:34:42,605 --> 00:34:44,235
What, are people going to stop coming
here?

684
00:34:44,235 --> 00:34:45,765
Are people ever going to leave?

685
00:34:45,765 --> 00:34:46,395
They know.

686
00:34:46,395 --> 00:34:47,225
They're not stupid.

687
00:34:47,225 --> 00:34:50,765
And they'd rather soak this in, which is
why companies like FDA I talk about all

688
00:34:50,765 --> 00:34:51,445
the time.

689
00:34:51,445 --> 00:34:56,345
And it's just these massive corporations
that are just literally taking our tax

690
00:34:56,345 --> 00:34:57,796
dollars and killing us.

691
00:34:57,804 --> 00:35:00,924
I mean, because if you look at like even
strawberries, you know, we talk about the

692
00:35:00,924 --> 00:35:05,064
food, even strawberries, there was an
interesting study where they took a basket

693
00:35:05,064 --> 00:35:07,884
of strawberries, like just a regular
basket for like seven bucks at the store,

694
00:35:07,884 --> 00:35:12,584
and they squeezed out all the strawberry
juices, completely drained it, and then

695
00:35:12,584 --> 00:35:13,744
crystallized it.

696
00:35:13,744 --> 00:35:19,804
Turns out there's enough pesticides in
that batch of strawberries to spray

697
00:35:19,884 --> 00:35:22,284
throughout an entire strawberry field.

698
00:35:23,104 --> 00:35:27,020
So that means these assholes are not even
just spraying

699
00:35:27,020 --> 00:35:32,120
pesticides, they're spraying so much that
you can actually take a batch of

700
00:35:32,120 --> 00:35:37,000
strawberries and respray the field, which
means maybe do less pesticides.

701
00:35:37,000 --> 00:35:38,760
But no, no, you can't do that, right?

702
00:35:38,760 --> 00:35:41,840
Because we have to make these things juicy
and they have to grow faster.

703
00:35:41,840 --> 00:35:43,364
And it's just like...

704
00:35:43,537 --> 00:35:44,317
Yeah.

705
00:35:44,317 --> 00:35:47,257
And it's got to look perfect in the store
or nobody's going to buy it.

706
00:35:47,257 --> 00:35:49,297
And then the store is going to lose money
and then we're going to lose money.

707
00:35:49,297 --> 00:35:50,277
And it's all profit.

708
00:35:50,277 --> 00:35:52,256
It's all money.

709
00:35:52,717 --> 00:35:53,816
Yeah.

710
00:35:53,816 --> 00:35:55,556
that just came out the other day?

711
00:35:56,913 --> 00:35:57,612
No.

712
00:35:57,612 --> 00:35:59,022
Just look it up if you have time, dude.

713
00:35:59,022 --> 00:36:02,252
Look up Lunchables lead study.

714
00:36:02,712 --> 00:36:08,112
And yeah, there was, you know, because
Lunchables are required for the school

715
00:36:08,112 --> 00:36:11,512
curriculums, most of them anyway, where
they're part of the lunch program, if

716
00:36:11,512 --> 00:36:13,172
you're kids in the lunch program.

717
00:36:13,352 --> 00:36:16,332
So, but Lunchables turns out that they
have, I think it's, I don't want to

718
00:36:16,332 --> 00:36:23,632
misquote, but I think it's over 40 % of
the allowed limit for lead.

719
00:36:24,492 --> 00:36:26,972
But this is approved by the FDA.

720
00:36:27,404 --> 00:36:30,884
And in order to get more protein, right,
because they have to kind of like gauge

721
00:36:30,884 --> 00:36:32,504
this because the kids need more protein.

722
00:36:32,504 --> 00:36:37,504
So they added more meat, which is
processed meat, turkey and all that stuff

723
00:36:37,504 --> 00:36:38,144
in Lunchables.

724
00:36:38,144 --> 00:36:39,944
They added more of that in the packaging.

725
00:36:39,944 --> 00:36:46,444
So to offset that statistic, they just
added more protein to lessen the amount.

726
00:36:46,444 --> 00:36:48,224
But really, you're just adding process.

727
00:36:48,224 --> 00:36:49,544
It's not like it's real chicken.

728
00:36:49,544 --> 00:36:51,464
You're just adding process bullshit.

729
00:36:51,464 --> 00:36:54,164
So now these kids are ingesting all this
process.

730
00:36:54,164 --> 00:36:55,628
And then we look at like, OK.

731
00:36:55,628 --> 00:36:59,318
So all this food that came out and then
you look at like the spike in, you know,

732
00:36:59,318 --> 00:37:04,988
autism, disease, cancer, and all these
poor kids, you know, even in our

733
00:37:04,988 --> 00:37:05,648
generation.

734
00:37:05,648 --> 00:37:07,568
I mean, you know, this is really when it
started.

735
00:37:07,568 --> 00:37:12,408
You add that plus the fact that social
media, right, came about.

736
00:37:12,408 --> 00:37:16,208
This like pyramid of just everything is
rising and everything's getting worse and

737
00:37:16,208 --> 00:37:16,368
worse.

738
00:37:16,368 --> 00:37:19,688
And then when you get these poor kids up
to the top and they're like all messed up

739
00:37:19,688 --> 00:37:22,238
in the head, what do the parents do?

740
00:37:22,238 --> 00:37:23,588
let's give them Adderall.

741
00:37:23,788 --> 00:37:24,908
Yeah, they're 10 years old.

742
00:37:24,908 --> 00:37:26,088
Let's just pop them on Adderall.

743
00:37:26,088 --> 00:37:27,328
They'll be able to focus.

744
00:37:27,328 --> 00:37:29,728
It's just like dude.

745
00:37:29,868 --> 00:37:31,332
It's crazy, man.

746
00:37:32,399 --> 00:37:35,779
It's a dangerous spiral, dangerous spiral
we're on.

747
00:37:36,479 --> 00:37:37,759
Man, this has been a great conversation.

748
00:37:37,759 --> 00:37:39,489
You have similar conversations on your
show.

749
00:37:39,489 --> 00:37:41,280
Tell us about humanity and hashtags.

750
00:37:41,280 --> 00:37:45,760
just a show I started a few years ago
where, like yourself, I wanted to just

751
00:37:45,760 --> 00:37:49,890
talk about different things like wellness,
productivity, social media.

752
00:37:49,890 --> 00:37:54,540
And I just wanted to have good objective
conversations with fellow humans.

753
00:37:54,580 --> 00:37:55,700
And yeah, that's what we do.

754
00:37:55,700 --> 00:37:57,410
So I put out episodes every week.

755
00:37:57,410 --> 00:37:58,980
You could find it everywhere.

756
00:37:58,980 --> 00:38:02,210
Just search humanity and hashtags on all
platforms.

757
00:38:02,210 --> 00:38:04,510
And I put everything on YouTube as well.

758
00:38:04,510 --> 00:38:06,180
So if you don't watch it there.

759
00:38:06,180 --> 00:38:07,250
But yeah, we're going good, man.

760
00:38:07,250 --> 00:38:09,696
Episode a week, and we're having a blast.

761
00:38:11,215 --> 00:38:14,195
awesome we'll have the links to that in
our show notes for this episode thank you

762
00:38:14,195 --> 00:38:17,235
so much for your time anything key here
that we did not touch on you and make sure

763
00:38:17,235 --> 00:38:18,026
we mentioned

764
00:38:18,026 --> 00:38:21,776
Jeremy, the only thing I would say is if
if you don't already to subscribe to

765
00:38:21,776 --> 00:38:26,026
Jeremy show you need to because there's
some great content and you do a good job.

766
00:38:26,026 --> 00:38:27,466
So just keep doing what you're doing.

767
00:38:27,466 --> 00:38:32,016
And the more we talk about fitness and get
people active and get people thinking that

768
00:38:32,016 --> 00:38:38,196
there is grass that's greener on the other
side and you are better to take care of

769
00:38:38,196 --> 00:38:38,476
yourself.

770
00:38:38,476 --> 00:38:41,096
You just got to do the research and it's
going to take a little time and a little

771
00:38:41,096 --> 00:38:42,356
effort, maybe a little money.

772
00:38:42,356 --> 00:38:44,286
But you only get one life, man.

773
00:38:44,286 --> 00:38:45,892
So don't fuck it up.

774
00:38:47,524 --> 00:38:48,384
to Tony Berardo.

775
00:38:48,384 --> 00:38:50,684
He's the host of the Humanity and Hashtags
podcast.

776
00:38:50,684 --> 00:38:54,054
You can find the link to that show and to
him show notes for this episode at

777
00:38:54,054 --> 00:38:55,834
thefitmas .com.

778
00:38:56,615 --> 00:39:00,035
shared really helped you to shift your
perspective on all that you have to be

779
00:39:00,035 --> 00:39:01,055
grateful for.

780
00:39:01,055 --> 00:39:02,831
And I hope that...

781
00:39:02,933 --> 00:39:06,333
that he shares about his day -to -day
struggle to be a little bit better can

782
00:39:06,333 --> 00:39:08,692
help you find a path to do the same.

783
00:39:10,608 --> 00:39:12,868
a lot to us that you spend time with us
like this every week.

784
00:39:12,868 --> 00:39:16,188
If you've gotten any value out of this
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785
00:39:16,188 --> 00:39:19,608
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786
00:39:19,608 --> 00:39:20,157
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787
00:39:20,363 --> 00:39:23,923
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that share the same kind of struggles that

788
00:39:23,923 --> 00:39:25,166
you and I do.

789
00:39:26,205 --> 00:39:29,845
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790
00:39:29,845 --> 00:39:30,745
Thanks for listening.