How To Flush Away Negativity: A Guide to Positive Transformation

Jeremy: [00:00:00] Negative thoughts are something that everyone deals with,

whether it's beating yourself up or things you've said in the past that you regret or worrying about the future and the way something might go. The way that those thoughts control our behaviors and our actions and our emotions.

It is something that usually feels like it's outside of our control.

Today I'm gonna share with you a conversation that I had with my eight year old neighbor and know there's not gonna be some groundbreaking advice that you haven't heard somewhere else before. But what you will hear is the perspective of an innocent kid.

Who struggles with his own negative thoughts and his own limiting beliefs

and he'll not only share the three things that he's learned about negative thoughts in his short eight years.

But he'll also explain how, if you just think of those thoughts like a toilet, you might find the same relief that he has.

[00:01:00] All right, so we're doing things a little differently today. Zach is off and I am actually on the road. I'm recording this on the beach, literally walking barefoot in the sand while I talk to you through my phone. Which feels really weird

with that walking barefoot on the beach comes the negative thoughts about even recording this episode. The way I'm doing it right now but it was actually on the beach a few days ago when I was talking with my eight year old neighbor Wyatt, about how he stays so positive.

That I was motivated to record this episode.

You see, most kids, you ask him how their day is, what's going on, how was their day at school, they'll tell you fine, or it was okay, or, you know, maybe you'll get a, an anecdote or two. Every single time I see Wyatt and I ask him how he's doing, he gives me an enthusiastic great.

And it's just amazing to me how positive he is. Like everything is just always good. And I, and I [00:02:00] had to ask him how he manages to keep such a positive outlook ensure he is eight years old. He doesn't have bills to pay, he doesn't have the pressures of adult life that the rest of us do.

But it was in his innocence that I found a ton of wisdom and a few laughs

and a few lessons that I think all of us could learn a thing or two from.

Jeremy: So, like I said, this is a little unconventional for us. This is a little different from our normal episodes, but I wanna share with you now the conversation I had with my friend Wyatt. While we were hanging out on the beach during an [00:03:00] afterschool event the other day where we just talked about how he manages to stay so positive.

Wyatt's one of the most positive kids I know. Love talking to him. Everything's always great. But he was telling me he's got , three things he's already found that are good about negative thoughts.

So why? What are the three good things about negative thoughts?

Wyatt: Well, usually you always get. Over them, but if they're really bad, you can't really get over them. But I just try to ignore those thoughts. Yeah. And, and try to move on from them. But, and then the second one is

they always try to pull you back. I found a way. To push them back. Okay. How do you do it? Uh, I put, I do, I try meditating. That kind of pushes it back just a little. Yeah. For just enough time that I can do what I need to do. Yeah. Uh, uh, so that, so that, and then the bad thoughts come back. Right. [00:04:00]

Jeremy: And where did you learn about

Wyatt: meditation?

Uh uh, sometimes I bought yoga. Nice. Me too. Really?

Jeremy: Yeah. Nice. I just, I got, I just started a new yoga program

Wyatt: yesterday. Really? Yeah. Wow. Yeah. Um, I just watch it on tv. Okay.

Jeremy: Um, do you do the yoga too, or you

Wyatt: just watch it? Uh, I watch it sometime. Uh, one episode. I, I watch it and, and, and met it and meditate while, while watching it because your words are coming.

So it helps me. Yeah. Get rid of it. Or get rid of the bad fats. Right. And then also, and then, yeah, I forgot what I was gonna say. That part, but, uh, three, number three, you. And it feels like if you just close your eyes and try and try to massage yourself mm-hmm. Like not, not physically, like mentally. Mm. [00:05:00] It really, it can sometimes just.

I think of it as a toilet. That might be disconcerting for some people. But what? That's hilarious. And you just flush the bad thoughts.

Jeremy: You just flush the bad. So walk me through like what's going on in your head when you're flushing those bad thoughts? How, how does that process feel on the

Wyatt: inside? So I try to make, I try to make my mind blank, so I'll not think of any of anything.

Mm-hmm. And then wait for the bad thoughts to come in. Then I start meditating and when I meditate it, it kind of feels like it's, it's starting to pull it, it's starting to pull the nozzle that would flush right? And, and then I, I, and then I breathe in and out and just try to relax and then let us flush his number away.

Jeremy: And so when you breathe it out, is that, is that where it's flushing is out through your breath, or do you sort of feel it going from your head through your body and then out your toenails?

Wyatt: Oh, like I think it, [00:06:00] I feel like it just comes out of, I think it just leaves you, I don't know where it leaves you from, but.

Yeah. That's amazing

Jeremy: man. It does. It is there. I know a lot of adults my age that aren't as tapped into their feelings as you are. That's pretty incredible that you have the ability to stay so focused on the positive and meditate and to know that when you watch yoga, that you can, you can just hear the words and adapt that to your own meditation.

That's, that's pretty profound, dude. How old are you? Eight. You're eight years old. Yeah. Do you know how much farther along I'd be in my life if I knew what you know at eight years old?

Wyatt: How a lot.

Jeremy: Good work, man. I'm proud of you.

Wyatt: Thanks.

Jeremy: All right. There you have it. My conversation with my neighbor, Wyatt. Just a great kid that I'm really excited to have, uh, be in my life and, and the that of my family's. Some key takeaways there. Obviously, we're talking about meditation, which all of you guys that have been listening to us for a while are no stranger to.

We talk about it all the time because it is so foundational [00:07:00] to having a happier, healthier, more balanced life. It's just one of the things that we rely on, and so we always try to remind people that it is there as a resource if you need it, but I also just love that he sort of does it his own way. for him.

He thinks of it like a toilet flushing the negative thoughts out of his head when they are overwhelming, when they're too much, when, when they are what is dominating the space in his brain. He literally, through his breath and through meditation, just flushes them away. So I'm curious, what's your method?

What's, what's your toilet flushing? How do you get the negative thoughts out of your head? We would love to hear from you. You can, uh, contact us through our Facebook group if you're, if you're in there and if you're not, please join. And you can also sign up for our newsletter that is available at our website, the fit mess.com, and that's where we'll be back in just a few days when I'm off the beach and back at my desk. And Zach is back from his world travels. We'll be back there with a brand new episode@thefitmess.com. Thanks for listening. We'll see you then. [00:08:00]