May 10, 2023

Overcoming Negative Self-Talk: The Power of Internal Validation

​​The concept of validation is something we all seek, consciously or unconsciously. We often rely on external sources to validate our self-worth and boost our confidence. However, what if we told you that the key to achieving personal growth is...

​​The concept of validation is something we all seek, consciously or unconsciously. We often rely on external sources to validate our self-worth and boost our confidence. However, what if we told you that the key to achieving personal growth is through internal validation?

In today's world, where social media plays a significant role in our lives, it's easy to get caught up in seeking validation from others. We measure our self-worth by the number of likes and comments we receive on our posts, but is it healthy?

In this episode, we discuss why external validation can provide a temporary boost to our confidence, but it's not sustainable in the long run. It's crucial to shift our focus towards internal validation, which means validating ourselves through our own standards, beliefs, and values.

Internal validation involves acknowledging our worth, strengths, and achievements. It's about recognizing that we are enough and not seeking validation from others to feel better. When we rely on external validation, we give away our power to control our emotions and let others determine our self-worth.

 

Key Takeaways:

  •  Effort and self-reflection are necessary for the journey toward internal validation.

  • Identifying negative self-talk and challenging beliefs are essential steps toward internal validation.

  • Practicing self-love is a crucial aspect of achieving internal validation.

  • Embracing vulnerability and being kind to ourselves are important components of the journey.

  • Celebrating even the smallest successes is key in achieving and maintaining internal validation.

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Transcript

Jeremy: [00:00:00] There's no fucking formula that anyone can, can promise you that is gonna make you happy all of the time.

The trick is learning to live between the good and the bad. Acknowledging that the bad is gonna fucking be there, and sometimes it's gonna win. The good is gonna be there, and sometimes it's gonna win. For me, you and I are on, on opposite sides right now. With that. You're, you're stuck in the bad. I'm, I'm living, living it up in the good.

I'm gonna come crashing down. It's what I do. I'm aware of it, but right now I'm trying to just go like, you know what? This feels pretty fucking good. I'm gonna hang out here as long as you'll, as long as they'll let me stay. And you will continue to fight your way out of the shit that you're stuck in. But this fucking illusion, that self-help, loves to share that, you know, there's just a simple formula.

All you have to do is X, Y, z, and you'll be happy is bullshit. You have to learn to accept all of it. ,

And that is where I think you find more contentment, which I think is a, a more realistic thing to strive for.

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