205. How to Get Your Relationship Shit Together with Gary John Bishop

Everyone wants that amazing, fulfilling, and profoundly connected relationship we’ve all read about and dreamed of with someone who gets you and you get them, and all is wonderful in the world.  But what is the reason some of us don’t have it? Maybe you don’t know shit about having an authentically great relationship! That's according to our guest this week. The “Sex Pistols of Self-Help,” Gary John Bishop (http://garyjohnbishop.com/)  is also the author of “Love Unfucked: Getting Your Relationship Shit Together (https://amzn.to/3OY0Blu) .” It’s the latest title from his “Unfuck Yourself” series. 

In this episode of The Fit Mess, Gary shares why you need to stop shifting blame in your relationships, take responsibility, and face yourself first if you truly want a real relationship that actually works.
What We Discuss with Gary:

• 00:00 Intro

• 2:22 Thoughts create reality

• 5:36 Why Love UnFu*ked is an important book now

• 9:58 Which relationships need help

• 11:22 Self-reflection leads to growth

• 14:21 Don’t change for other people

• 19:06 People don’t change but relationships do

• 24:39 Why you keep attracting assholes

• 28:17 Can you be loved if you don’t love yourself

• 30:08 What Gary’s wife thinks about his relationship advice

This episode was originally published January 25th, 2022

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